Disciplining Difficulties

If you ask me whats the most difficult thing in disciplining a child.. I would say.. to discipline yourself!
Truly... action speaks louder than words!
of course.. words play an important role too.
came across this article in a magazine here in Perth and thought that i should share  it here as a reminder for all of us...

LITTLE EARS ARE LISTENING

Guard your lips when a child is near

for children repeat the things they hear.

Let no ugly tone be heard, no careless talk, no careless word.

For it is grievous sin to mar the innocent within

Language vulgar or unkind,

leave its mark upon the mind

Little ears are listening

Little ears catch everything!

control your feelings, check your tongue

in the presence of the  young,

for  a child is sent to you

as fresh and pure as morning dew.

So let your speech be wise and mild. 

 In the hearing of the child.

Alive but Dead

Here she goes again.. a weird  topic or should i say.. a strange topic.

strange.. but common. We see this everywhere and sometimes, Naudhubillah,  we could be one of them..

Those who are alive but dead!

They are alive- they eat, walk, sleep, work. They can be successful in their career, physically fit and healthy,  financially stable, a great family etc but in reality..in the eyes of Allah.. they are dead.

Why?!

because they don't remember Allah.

and if u think about it.. it is sooo  true! theres no better word to describe these people.

without the remembrance of Allah, that Allah is our Lord.. that we were created to serve Allah  and to please him as His slave, then beware we'd found ourselves servants to something else ie our desires, ego, career, wealth, power etc.

in reality, we, human can only be slaves,  what differentiates us is our masters.

we have to realize that if we choose other than Allah to be our lord or to dedicate our whole life to.. then rest

assure that these things are all temporary and can never be satisfied no matter how much we try.

But if we choose Allah as our Lord, then verily He is the Self-Sufficient. He has power over everything, He is eternal. He does'nt need us but we need Him not   only in this life, but also the next.

so lets wake up.. lets not die before the time comes.

lets remember to please Allah in everything that we do.

when we're tested by Allah with anger, for example.. choose  to please Allah.

remember.. Allah love those who can control their anger.. Allah love those who forgive and forget, for His sake. So with these thoughts in mind, its easy to understand why those whose got the remembrance of Allah in their hearts can react very calmly and wisely when tested emotionally.
Why?!
well, simple because, they're conscious! in other words... they're ALIVE.
they consciously decide to suppress their anger.. to please Allah.
one heart with zikrullah will have no place for syaitaan. Their ego or nafs cannot overpower their actions.
Unlike those  without zikrullah... when tested emotionally for example, they would just go with the flow.
Being dead, they just cant make a conscious decision.
Their reactions are driven by their ego, nafs and feelings.What i call reflex action.. it doesnt go to the  brain.. only up to the medulla oblongata!

Rasulullah Sallallaho 'alaihi wasallam  said: The contrast between a person who glorifies Almighty Allah and one who does not remember Him is like that between the living and the dead. (Baihaqi, Muslim, Bukhari)

May Allah guide us all!