Forgive & Forget... For Allah

Forgive & Forget... nice to say, nice to hear but in reality...very very difficult to achieve!
If you have that one person in your life who just never fail to hurt you..  emotionally..
every words of his or hers are just so painful, each time you thought that you had forgiven  him/ her, he/ she just continue to upset you again and again
up to the point that  you thought that he/ she was actually born to make your life miserable!
hearing his or her name can suddenly turn your day cloudy and sometimes stormy
and worst...flashbacks!.. every bad things that this person had done to you kept on haunting your mind..
yes.. you need just 1 person in your life  with all the above characteristics..
then you'd understand what i'm talking about here..

Forgive and forget would be the last thing on your mind!
unless.. we add another 'for'.. none other  than...For Allah! Then, insyaAllah, we'd be sooo please that this person came to our lives. we'd look at it as an opportunity for us to clean our hearts.
We believe that this person here is a test from Allah. That Allah is using this person as a tool to test our iman. Everything bad that this person had done to us.. anything.. even the worst of evil can never happen without the will of Allah. So lets train our eyes to look beyond this person.

People  talk about so many kinds of defense mechanisms in the psychiatric field, but if we look into our deen.. we'd  see that in it lies the best way of life for everyone, everywhere, in any situations.
verily with deen, one will attain success not only in the HereAfter but also in this temporary world.
Allah is our Creator.. so Who would know better than Him?!

The point i'm trying to convey here is that if we choose to  blame this person for all that  he/ she had done then its not gonna solve the problem. What will happen is that we'd hope for this person to change/ we try to make him/ her change and if he/ she didnt change/ when we fail to change him/ her then we are the one who'd suffer.. the  most!

So in this situation.. as believers, we need to understand who we are- our limitations and responsibility.
We need to realise that we cant change people.. its Allah's job
we need to put effort on whats within our reach.
Allah gave us this person in our lives..as a test.. so what can we do to please Him?
in fact, in anything that we face in life.. this should be the first question that come across our minds.
the principle of tawheed is  a great blessing for all of us cause its makes our lives easier by knowing that our responsibility is Only towards Allah.
That this 1 life that we have is Only to please Allah..
Not our ego! Not our pride!

Yes.. pride is definitely one big culprit in this issue of forgiving others..
remember o muslims!

Abdullah Ibne Mas'ud Radiallahu'anhu narrates Nabi Sallahu'alayhiwasallam said:
Whoever has the smallest particle of arrogance in his heart, he will not be able to enter paradise.
(Muslim)

Not our husbands/ wives/ children/ parents/ bosses!
Only Allah.

Ibne Abbas Radiallahu'anhuma narrates that Rasulullah Sallahu'alayhiwasallam said:
He who makes Allah angry for pleasing people, Allah becomes angered and makes people also angry with him; including those he had pleased to anger Allah. And he who pleases Allah by making people angry, Allah is pleased and makes people also pleased with him; including those he had made angry  to please Allah; so much so that he becomes virtuous in the eyes of those people who were angry and his words and deeds become adorned in their eyes.
(Tabarani and Majma-'uz-Zawaid)

About the flashbacks..whenever you're having this attack..
ask Allah  to protect you from the devil, say istighfar.
remember Allah.. do lots of   zikr.
Tell yourself that i am  not gonna let myself trapped in the past..
what had happened has happened and its the  decree of Allah
i have to move on.. to please Allah!

Abu Hurairah Radiallahu'anhu narrates Nabi Sallahu'alayhiwasallam said:
Musa Ibne 'Imran Alayhissalam said: O  my Rabb (Sustainer)! Who is the most respectable slave in Your esteem? Allah the Almighty and Majestic  replied: He who forgives despite having the capability to avenge. (Baihaqi)



May Allah clean our hearts and give us the taufeeq to be kind to everyone. To be humble, patient and ever-forgiving like our dear beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallahu'alayhiwasallam. Amin. 





Its been long since i last received a hand made eid card, so i have to show  it!



An Aid for an Excellent Eid

AllahuAkbar.. its coming to Eid already?!
How quick time passes by these days..
Eid...Its suppose to be a time to celebrate.. a glorious victory of having to fast for 1 month and pushing ourselves to the limit in worshipping Him by night..
the question is.. are we truly eligible to celebrate? Can we call ourselves victorious? Have we truly excel this Ramadhan?
InsyaAllah.. may Allah accept our deeds. Amin.
Hope for Allah's mercy and fear Him, if because of some shortcomings, our good deeds not accepted

And those who bring what they have brought while  their hearts are fearful. (Mu'minun: 60)

well, dont want to talk about what have gone  here, but its hard to contain this feeling of sadness and regret  when i came across this one hadeeth from 'Ubaadah bin Saamit RadiAllahu'anhu, reported by Tabaraani.. wherein Rasulullah Sallallahu'alayhiwasallam said:

Ramadhan the month of blessing has come to you, wherein Allah turns towards you and sends down to you His special mercy, forgives faults, accept prayers, looks at your competition for the greatest good and boasts to His malaa'ikah about you. So show to Allah  your righteousness from yourselves. For verily te most pitiable and unfortunate one is the one who is deprived of Allah's mercy in this month.

O Allah.. forgive us all for our unmindfulness.. again and again..
Allah the Most forgiving, Merciful

yesterday is gone  and will never return.. so lets move  on!
Lets try to excel on eid!
the statement sounds a bit weird. Probably because we dont really use the word excel when it comes to religious matter huh?! Excel only comes  with exams/ worldly achievements!
Come to think of it.. this life is a test! one BIG test for all of us..
One in which, if u  fail you'd fail forever and if u succeed.. you'd be successful forever..ever!
So,insyaAllah this coming  eid day is apart of that big test.
This is another  weird statement.. eid a test?!
yep.. we tend to regard something tragic/ saddening/ worrying as a test when in fact
something happy/ makes you proud/ worldy achievements are even bigger a test!
cause when we're happy.. we tend to forget Him..  we tend to forget that its still a test
In  fact, whatever happens to us in this world.. good or bad.. is a test..
Reward is in the HereAfter

So lets plan to excel this eid test! How?
Simply .. by celebrating it the way Rasulullah Sallallahu'alayhiwasallam and His Companions did!
Why?!
Simply because they are the people whom Allah had promised Paradise even during their lifetime
The Companions are normal people- with desires, temptations, etc but they had lived their life in the way that had gained Allah's redho..
What else are we looking for in this life?!

1. Takbeer! As soon as the announcement has been made on the tv for example.. switch it off! Lets do takbeer! It is mustahabb to recite takbeer during the night of Eid from sunset on the last day of Ramadaan until the imam comes to lead the prayer.Men should raise their voices reciting this dhikr in the marketplaces, mosques and homes, but women should not raise their voices.
2. Do  ghusl ( a bath with intention.. in conjunction with eid)
3. put on your best clothes. for men that is. For ladies..as usual, pleasant ones within the law of shariat. And please leave your make-ups and perfumes.. for the sake of Allah. Better.. for single ladies esp..  throw away everything or keep it somewhere out of reach until you're married when u need to use them in front of your husbands! It was narrated from Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
   

   “If a woman puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, then she is such and such,” and he spoke sternly - meaning an adulteress.

   Narrated by Abu Dawood (4173) and al-Tirmidhi (2786); classed as saheeh by Ibn Daqeeq al-Eid in al-Iqtiraah (126) and by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
4. Eat an odd number of dates before going out for the prayer.
5. Go out everyone! Perform you eid prayer! Everyone ok.. ladies too. I need to emphasize it here because back home.. usually the ladies would stay back at home to prepare food etc, thus leaving this great sunnah. Strange... when we are asked to go out.. we choose to stay at home! Who is the stranger now?!
6. greet one another.. congratulate each other.  some famous greetings would be: Taqabbala Allaah minna wa minkum (May Allaah accept (good deeds) from us and from you” or “Eid mubaarak”
7. dont forget to pay zakat al-fitr before prayers ok.
8. Also i is prescribed for the one who goes out to the Eid prayer to go by one route and return by another.

InsyaAllah may Allah give us the taufeeq to practise what we know and spread it to others.
Have an excellent Eid, everyone.

Specially dedicated to my dear family in Hulu Langat-mak, ayah, muni, taufiq, umair, rafiq and farah in puchong, sidiq in sabah, um-in-law in Kluang, nenek, atok, wan kek rombaw, aunties, uncles and all who knows us... Eid  Mubarak.. maaf  zahir batin..
Taqabbala Allaah minna wa minkum (May Allaah accept (good deeds) from us and from you!
Love and miss you all... and lemang, ketupat, rendang, kuah kacang kak com, tat, almond london... sob, sob.

May Allah bless!