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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

FUN: Fulfilling / Fooling?

Everyone wants to have fun. Life is short.. lets have fun! We're still young, lets enjoy while we still can!
Yabadabadoo!!!

True.. its human nature to have fun but the thing is ...how do you have fun?
what do you do to get this thing called fun?
come to think of it what is fun? how do you define it?
Don't worry, am not a philosopher and am not looking forward to be one either cause Alhamdulillah, i have found the best, most comprehensive and perfect way of life, not only for myself but also for everyone in this world, wherever you are, whoever you may be.. how old or young..as long as you stick to this way of life you'd be safe and happy not only  in this world but also in the next.
Of course.. the answer is.. I S L A M!

Some people thought that its impossible to be religious and have fun at the same time...
especially when that religion you're talking about here is Islam!
I mean if I try to put my self in those people's  shoes, i would definitely wonder how in the world can that lady have fun being in that black dress everywhere?!
When everyone else is having fun 'socializing' in the clubs its difficult to  imagine how one can have fun when his or her religion forbid its followers from going to those places where free-mixing  and alcohols are the main things?
When the religion forbid pre-marital relationship- how can one really find their soulmate?
No music! No cinemas! No datings! No touching! = NO FUN?!

A famous scholar once mentioned that there are 2 main obstacles on the way to righteousness:
They are  DESIRES & DOUBTS.
When one is so overpowered by their desires. When one is a servant to their own desires... one would do anything to satisfy it.
Islam teaches us to control our desires. Allah gave us the ability to think and to decide. So use them wisely. Choose to be a servant of God, not your desires.

Another thing is doubts. This is basically related to the state of our iman or belief in Allah. If we truly,  strongly believe that Allah is Ever Watching each and every action of ours in this world and that  we will be held accountable on the Day of Judgement on our smallest sins or deeds, then surely we  would have  no problem to practice complete deen in our lives. The thing is, since these things, the dark grave, punishments of Hell, the beautiful Jannah are not in front of our eyes now, while the gold and glitter of the 'fun' in this world is all over us, we're always in doubts... time and time again.
Allah, protect us ya Allah.

If you find your heart more inclined to listen to music than the holy Quran,
if you find your mind always thinking of that boy/girlfriend of yours,
if you find yourself in the cinema/ night-clubs every other weekend,
then beware! wake-up! before its too late!

dont let your desires drive you in this life! let the deen  be your driver!
for desires can never find satisfaction in this temporary world.

Naudhubillah, lets have that fear in our hearts that because of our sins, our  hearts might have been so blackened that we find solace in things that are forbidden  by  our Creator. O Allah clean our hearts!makes it easy for our hearts to love what You love, and hate what You hate.
Abu Umamah  RadiAllahu'anhu narrates: Rasulullah Sallallahu'alayhiwasallam said:  If anyone loves for Allah's sake, hates for Allah's sake, gives for Allah's sake and  withholds for Allah's sake, he will progress towards perfection of ima. (Abu Dawud)

So, then how do you have a fulfilling fun rather than a fooling fun?
Fulfilling fun is basically everything in the world that you can think of, except  those that are forbidden by Allah. On the other hand fooling fun is those things you know is forbidden by Allah; its gonna cause  you to loose your time, energy, and money, and worst.. more sins and more black spots on your heart!
so lets choose to have a halal, clean and fulfilling fun!

The following are some practical ways to avoid fooling fun and thus achieving  fulfilling fun:

  1.  have the  intention first! decide to please Allah, NOT your desires. get your principle of life right-  that you're in this world to serve Allah, NOT to serve YOUR desires!
  2. pray to Allah so Allah makes it easy.
  3. believe that death can come to  you anytime  and you dont want to die while sinning. 
  4. realize  that Allah is  Ever-Watching
  5. try to be with those who can remind you of Allah, choose the right company
Ibne 'Abbas RadiAllahu'anhuma narrates: Rasulullah Sallallahu'alayhiwasallam was asked: Which of our companions is the best? He replied: The one, when you see him, he reminds you of Allah; and when he talks, your deeds improve; and his deeds (actions) remind you of the HereAfter. (Abu Ya;la and Majma-'uz-Zawaid)  
6.   try as much as possible to be in an Islam-friendly environment which,  nowadays can  sometimes be very difficult to find but at least if you  try to look for it, insyaAllah you'll find it- the gatherings of remembrance of Allah. The thing with us is we dont even have that urge to look for it, Astaghfirullah.
7.   stay away from  the bad places and the bad guys!
8.   explore your other interests ie if you're fond of baking, instead of spending your time in the cinema on the weekend, maybe you can spend it in the kitchen, bake for the family etc. 
Listing down these steps in words  really is easy, but to put them into practice needs a lot of effort and sacrifice. Believe that behind every sacrifices and difficulties for the sake of Allah, there lies great rewards as promised by Allah.

May Allah give us the strength! Amin.

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